Okay, what the hell, no. No. No. No. No.
So here’s the deal—I’m sure that this has been true for people. I’d go ahead and bet it was true for whoever made the graphic, and you know what, if that person had used “I” instead of “a woman” I would be just fine with this. If, for her, for anyone, the act of getting a haircut is a “clear gesture of defiance, dissatisfaction or despair,” that’s fine for them.
However, the idea that all women and the choices that they make about their bodies are reflecting this same emotional concept? That, incidentally, revolves around men? Yeah, no. Fuck that very much. No.
When I was in high school I cut 8 inches off my hair on a whim one day because I woke up and it felt heavy; I started growing it out when I left college because someone tried to tell me that “grown women keep their hair cropped.” It’s been blonde and..er, well, darker blonde, red for that one season, maroon, briefly, once, and I don’t make the decisions about what color I put in it based on how men feel either. It’s what looks good to me and what doesn’t. It’s what feels right and what doesn’t. It’s what I want or don’t want, because it is part of my body, and I am the only person who has the right to make a decision about it.
So, from where I’m standing, this should really read:
When a woman cuts her hair off, it’s not really about men at all, no matter what anyone says. Women know their own bodies better than anyone else does, and so when they cut their hair off, they are effectively making a decision that no one else has any right to judge. Whatever their reason, it’s a clear gesture of whatever they want it to be—whether it’s defiance, despair, dissatisfaction, or just that they’ve decided they want shorter fucking hair.
Don’t let anyone tell you the right way to be a girl—to be a person—ever. However you’re doing it is just exactly the way it’s supposed to be done.
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